Help the Family When One of the Gets Released From Prison

A common situation that often arises from the incarcerated disruption of the family dynamics is when the father went to prison and the mother stayed home. While she is at home she deals with bills, kids, household problems, work, babysitters, and so on, lots of life issues that are hard enough for two parents to deal with let alone one. While he is prison, his developing with his family, as far as their normal family dynamics goes, stops in fact it goes on a bit of a stand still.This becomes a problem when he gets released, he is already very overwhelmed and anxious to get home. However, home is not the same as it was when he left, he has been gone for years so she has her own way of doing things now, after all she has grown and had to change as she adapted to the changes that occurred. He on the other hand expects it to go back to the way it was when he left it is what he knows and has been waiting years for.She is forced to make a choice, which is why it is imperative to have someone who helps with recovery involved during these times. She can either go back to the old ways even though it is going to produce the same results as before or she can keep things the way they are allowing him to be a part of her life, as long as he can join the new family dynamics and stay in recovery.This is a typical situation to encounter but it does not have to be negative. One thing that is really helpful in a situation like this is coaching on both sides. A coach will help them to both understand each other better which cuts the tension down drastically as they form the new household dynamics together. A recovery coach is one type of support that can and will be very beneficial with both helping and understanding the special needs involved.There are other types of support as well that are equally important and benificialo that you or your loved one can utilize. Places like twelve step programs that also offer sponsers that will work with the person in recovery are great places to find the much needed support. There are also, of course, the paid professionals that do this for a living which are very helpful in their own ways. However, about paid professionals, they keep at a distance, the relationship is only one sided and they are mandated reporters which sometimes keep the walls from being broken down. What I mean by this is that if I know that my visit with a professional is all about extracting information from me that I will keep my guard up for fear of revealling too much about myself. Whereas, it is just the opposite when dealing with support volunteers who have trudged the same ditches in life I have, I feel better because we can relate at a safe level.